Let me tell you a little story.
I really wanted to go to Sea Sessions.
Darren plays GAA and he plays goalie so he’s pretty vital to the team…
There was a game scheduled for saturday evening on the weekend of Sea Sessions…
So because of Darrens commitment we decided we’d just head up on the Sunday morning.
Then Darren hears great news, the game was cancelled because there was a county match the same weekend!! Hooray we could now make a weekend of it! I rarely have weekends off so it was a big deal we booked our tickets for the weekend!! €90 each!!
The game was supposed to have been cancelled so Darren made other plans. Then Friday evening he gets a phonecall from another player saying the match is back on
We had the jeep packed, all the farm work done and we had bought our expensive weekend tickets
So for the first time in his life Darren put himself first and didn’t go to the match- he immediately tried to ring the trainer to tell him he would be away.
Those who know Darren knows that he wouldn’t miss training a match or anything that he has a responsibility to go to unless he has a valid reason.
In this case, his best buddy Liam was jettin off to Dubai (for 2 years)the following week, and he wanted to spend some quality time with him before he left.
He tried to ring his trainer several times to explain the situation but there was no answer. He sent an apologetic text and got no reply…he was blanked and made to feel like shit….this is the thing I hate about football…
You’re supposed to dedicate your life to it. Training three nights a week in any weather matches every weekend, either on a Friday, Saturday or Sunday- forget about making plans to go anywhere or do anything!!
My dad played football all his life, I remember being on holidays in a campervan in Clare and halfway through our weeks holiday he had to drive back to Cavan, play the match and then drive back to Clare.
I hate the way it takes over people’s lives, they are made to adopt the mindset that NOTHING is more important than their team and training and matches and this is why so much guilt is thrown on a person for missing a match.
Knockanstockan is coming up next weekend it’s a 3 day music festival which I am so excited to go to…. But we’re gonna miss day one because Darren has a football match, and he won’t even think of asking the trainer not to go…even though the trainer put him off the team and brought in the reserve goalie. (punishment)
It’s my belief that when people have a legitimate excuse and try to contact their coach to explain the situation then the coach has a responsibility to at the very least listen to what his players have to say. They most certainly shouldn’t blank their player and humiliate him
Just my opinion.
Anyway despite the guilt trip placed on Darren we had a great weekend! It’s a great festival and I’ll blog about it later!!